I took to Twitter for some post inspiration because *cough nobody is submitting questions in the Ask Jewels box to the right of this article…just saying…cough* and was inspired by @kianwii who writes at simple she goes who asked me to discuss my views on soul mates. Well, challenge accepted. I love this idea and I hope it sparks a bit of a comment debate because the people I have discussed this topic with seem to always fall in polar opposites. People tend to feel pretty strongly about this topic.
The idea of soul mates is one that has been perpetuated by movies, fairy tales, and every love story ever told. It’s what we all live for as little girls growing up. For a lot of girls it is what we strive for; that perfect guy who completes your world and makes your life worth living. Does that make you gag? Yeah, me too.
I’m not a frigid frozen bitch and sure I believe in love. I just don’t happen to believe in soul mates. There are pieces of people that we connect with, that speak to one another. This can be found in romantic as well as platonic relationships. When push comes to shove I just don’t think there is one person for you out there in the world. I think there are a lot of people you connect with. There are a lot of men/women that you can end up with and it all comes down to who you meet and when.
Think about it for a minute. This world is huge and the number of people on it is mind blowing. You mean to tell me that if you are born, raised, live, and die in the same state that the guy you met in high school is your soul mate when you’ve never gone anywhere else or met enough people? Sure, you were happy and loved but to tell me that was the only person in the world for you is very narrow minded. Even Kianwii agreed with me. I asked her to chime in and she said, “In my opinion, in the traditional sense, the idea of one perfect person out there for each of us, isn’t real. Would my romantic heart like it to be true? Yes. But do I believe it? No.” She agreed with my way of thinking that you can find soul mates in different forms, including friendship.
We’ve all had that connection with somebody upon meeting them. That feeling where it’s like you’ve always known them and a time before or without them sees impossible. Don’t shake your head…you have. Yes, guys, even you…we know you have. When it happens it is magical. Who doesn’t appreciate being understood and accepted for exactly who they are? Nobody I know. That to me is a beautiful thing. In that sense, I think that people are meant to be in each other’s lives, yes.
If you ask me is a romantic, Cinderella and Prince Charming way, if a soul mate exists for us. My answer is no. Rake me over the coals, romantics, but it’s my honest truth. I know there are people out there who believe, to the very depths of their soul, that they have met their soul mate. There are women out there who go to bed at night praying and dreaming that they meet theirs. I know a lot of women who still believe in the fairytale dream. I won’t go so far as to slap them and tell them to wake up, but don’t expect me to be overly attentive to your wistful dreaming.
Call me jaded if you want to, even though I know that I am not. You can tell me that I am unromantic and hopeless, though I’m aware I am neither. I believe in love. I believe in being realistic as well. In this huge, beautiful, melting pot of a world, there is certainly more than one person you are compatible with. If I’m being totally honest I would say that we aren’t even meant to be with just one person…but that’s an entirely different post.
What is your take on soul mates? Do you think they exist? Have you ever felt that immediate connection with somebody, romantic or otherwise? I can’t wait to hear what you have to say! Don’t forget, twitter has been great for interactions and ideas, but I’m still waiting for some Ask Jewels questions. Use the contact form on the right sidebar and submit your question today.